Anger is a very destructive force which if allowed free reign can turn into violence and evil if not kept in check. Everyone gets angry from time to time, some people direct their anger at people and things while others direct anger at themselves and can become self destructive. Verbal or physical anger which is expressed by threatening or harming someone or harming an animal is evil, should be reported to authorities, and will be dealt with by God. Ungodly people talk negatively about others, whisper against others, start arguments and trouble which brings out anger in the people who are affected by them. People who are victims of angry people may be provoked to anger themselves and react in a way that could cause them to sin. Angry words spoken in haste can hurt others deeply, can cause the person it is directed at to worry, cause stress and fear, even extreme fear which can be considered abusive when an angry person repeatedly verbally or physically attacks another person. As followers of Christ, we must learn to control our behavior, our thoughts, our words, and our anger so that we do not sin in our anger or cause someone to fear us. We should never go to bed angry.
Ephesians 4:26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
The Bible tells us to forgive and love one another, not to provoke others to anger, not to direct our anger at others, not to speak or react in anger, not to bully others or cause problems for others and advises that we are to be slow to anger.
Colossians 3:8 - But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth.
Do not angrily rule over others. Rulers, leaders, head of households, supervisors and people in authority should not rule in anger but should rule with diligence, showing mercy, and cheerfulness toward others.
Romans 12:8 Or he that exhorteth, on exhortation: he that giveth, let him do it with simplicity; he that ruleth, with diligence; he that sheweth mercy, with cheerfulness.
Honest Love can overcome anger. Love without trying to deceive or pull the wool over someone's eyes. Be disgusted with evil and cling to what is good.
Romans 12:9 Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good.
Love can help you to overcome anger. Be kind and loving to one another in brotherly love, honor one another, work hard be fervent (having a passionate intensity) in spirit and serve the Lord.
Romans 12:10 Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;
Romans 12:11 Not slothful in business; fervent in spirit; serving the Lord;
Prayer and patience can help to overcome anger. Show great joy, be hopeful and pray instantly when you feel anger or are the victim of someone else's anger. Bless them who persecute you. That may seem hard to do but if you focus on the Lord, pray immediately and give the situation to Christ to handle, you will be focusing on Him and not on the anger of the other person.
Romans 12:12 Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer;
Romans 12:13 Distributing to the necessity of saints; given to hospitality.
Romans 12:14 Bless them which persecute you: bless, and curse not.
Romans 12:15 Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep.
Romans 12:16 Be of the same mind one toward another. Mind not high things, but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in your own conceits.
Do not seek revenge-let the Lord handle it. If someone does something bad or evil toward you do not repay them with bad or evil. Always be honest and try to live in peace with everyone around you.
Romans 12:17 Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men.
Romans 12:18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.
Do not get angry and take your revenge out on someone. The Lord will take vengeance for you. There is nothing you could do that could be worse than what the Lord can do to your enemies.
Romans 12:19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
How should you treat your enemies? So how do you handle your enemies? Not in anger. We are to be kind to our enemies, feed them if they are hungry, give them something to drink if they are thirsty. By being kind to your enemies you will heap burning coals on their head.
Romans 12:20 Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.
Forgive your enemies but do not put yourself back into an abusive situation If someone harms you verbally or physically, as a child of God you must forgive them, however, you are not required to stay in any abusive situation. Forgiving someone does not mean putting yourself back in a situation where you could be harmed emotionally or physically.
Proverbs 16:27 An ungodly man diggeth up evil: and in his lips there is as a burning fire.
Proverbs 16:28 A froward man soweth strife: and a whisperer separateth chief friends.
Proverbs 16:29 A violent man enticeth his neighbour, and leadeth him into the way that is not good.
Proverbs 16:30 He shutteth his eyes to devise froward things: moving his lips he bringeth evil to pass.
Proverbs 16:31 The hoary head is a crown of glory, if it be found in the way of righteousness.
Be slow to anger Anger and rebellion can cause people to rise against you.
Proverbs 16:32 He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that
Proverbs 17:11 An evil man seeketh only rebellion: therefore a cruel messenger shall be sent against him. Proverbs 17:12 Let a bear robbed of her whelps meet a man, rather than a fool in his folly. taketh a city.
Proverbs 17:13 Whoso rewardeth evil for good, evil shall not depart from his house.
Proverbs 17:14 The beginning of strife is as when one letteth out water: therefore leave off contention, before it be meddled with. Proverbs 17:15 He that justifieth the wicked, and he that condemneth the just, even they both are abomination to the LORD.
Proverbs 17:18 A man void of understanding striketh hands, and becometh surety in the presence of his friend. Proverbs 17:19 He loveth transgression that loveth strife: and he that exalteth his gate seeketh destruction. Proverbs 17:20 He that hath a froward heart findeth no good: and he that hath a perverse tongue falleth into mischief. Proverbs 17:21 He that begetteth a fool doeth it to his sorrow: and the father of a fool hath no joy. Proverbs 17:22 A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones. Proverbs 17:23 A wicked man taketh a gift out of the bosom to pervert the ways of judgment. Proverbs 17:24 Wisdom is before him that hath understanding; but the eyes of a fool are in the ends of the earth. Proverbs 17:25 A foolish son is a grief to his father, and bitterness to her that bare him. Proverbs 17:26 Also to punish the just is not good, nor to strike princes for equity. Proverbs 17:27 He that hath knowledge spareth his words: and a man of understanding is of an excellent spirit. Proverbs 17:28 Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise: and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding.